In addition to the Japanese Big Four (Honda, Suzuki, Kawasaki, and Yamaha), the list of top-selling motorcycle manufacturers includes companies based in Italy, the U.S., Austria, and the UK.
Honda’s motorcycle division sells more than 15 million motorcycles annually, which makes it world’s leading manufacturer. One of the factors driving the company’s sales is its popularity in Asian markets. Yet Honda also dominates in North America.
The Italian brand headquartered in Bologna manufactures motorcycles since 1935. Ducati is known for its powerful sport bikes. The company has a long and successful racing history, which started in 1951. Today it spends over 7% of its revenues on racing business. The brand belongs to Audi through its subsidiary Lamborghini.
Great 20th-21st century history and exhilarating riding experience give Harley-Davidson the status of the legend bike company. This brand is familiar almost to everybody, even those who have never ridden a bike in their lives.
Yamaha bikes are known for excellent performance, ride quality and comparatively easy handling. Yamaha is almost as successful as another famous Japanese manufacturer, Honda. Moreover, the number of dirt bikes it sells exceeds Honda and Yamaha combined.
The Motorcycle & Engine division of Kawasaki Heavy Industries gained recognition as a manufacturer of a wide range of bikes, from very small to sport ones. These motorcycles are loved all over the world for their powerful and reliable engines, capable of developing great speed. There are production sites in Japan, North America, Philippines, Indonesia, and Thailand.
One more representative of the Japanese Big Four. The GSXR 750 and the DR 400 are among the most popular Suzuki motorcycles. The company has over 35 production facilities in more than 20 countries.
During its first years the Austrian motorcycle manufacturer specialized in 2-stroke and 4-stroke off-road motorcycles, but in the course of time its product range grew wider. In addition to dirt bikes, it now includes street motorcycles and sports cars. The brand belongs to CROSS Industries AG and Bajaj Auto Limited.
BMW is one of the oldest motorcycles manufacturers. The company’s first bike was made in 1923. BMW Motorrad is famous for its road bikes, sports-touring bikes and sport bikes. Some of the most well-known models are the GS Adventure, the S 1000 REFRIGERATORS, and the K1600.
The largest motorcycle maker in the UK, Triumph specializes in road bikes that belong to the cruiser, naked, and sport classes. The Triumph brand is owned by BMW.
Victory is a comparatively new brand, it started production of motorcycles in 1998. Its large-displacement cruisers are famous all over the world. The company based in the U.S. has its final assembly facility in Iowa.
Source by Fiona Anosova
One of the easiest ways to change the entire look of a room is to paint it or change the current paint color. Most people leave their walls white, because they have no idea what color they want to use in a room or which walls they should paint. There are so many different ways to apply paint to a room. You can paint this wall but not that one. Paint this wall a light color and that one a dark color. Paint all the walls dark and use white for the trim. Maybe you want to paint the ceiling. There are a lot of decisions to make. When it comes to paint you don’t have to know exactly what you want to do until you know what color(s) you want in a room. What walls or ceiling you paint depends entirely upon the mood you want for that room, and if you have a dark color or a light color.
The first thing to think about when picking a paint color is to choose what room you are going to start decorating. Starting with a smaller room is a good idea just in case you don’t like the results. If you don’t, you can always start over. Bathrooms are usually a good place to start because of their size. Applying new home decor to any room where you are changing the entire look, can get expensive if you choose a room that is too big. Focus on one of the smaller rooms in your home when just getting started.
The second thing to think about when picking paint color is to determine the mood you want to set for that room. What room are you planning to decorate? The bathroom, kitchen, or bedroom. How do you want to feel when you walk into the room. Do you want a soothing and relaxing room to go to when you’re tired or stressed out? Do you want a bright and bold room with a lot of pizzazz What type of feeling do you want portrayed inside the room? If you already have decorations and don’t want to replace them, you will need to choose a color that compliments the current home decor. If you are planning to replace everything and can start over fresh, you can choose a color you like or one that portrays the mood you are looking for.
Source by BG Rickert
Some women make the mistake of sleeping with their man after only a few dates, some even as early as the first date. When this happens, the guy’s tendency is to lose interest in a girl once he already slept with her. However, sleeping with a man on the first date doesn’t always mean the relationship can no longer go somewhere. Here are some tips to keep him interested:
Make it impossible for him not to notice you
Even though you slept with him, this does mean that he would no longer be attracted to you, especially if you make an effort to look good. When you are always in your most gorgeous self, it would be impossible for him to just forget you easily.
Let him know that you are interested in him
You have to let this man know that you like him and that you are not just looking for a one night stand. Tell him that you are interested in him and that you would want to go out and, maybe, get to know him more.
Have your own life
You can keep a guy interested when he sees that you have your own life. Guys are interested with women who are independent and who do not need a guy to be happy.
Act like sleeping with him was not a big deal
This would absolutely drive him crazy! Do not let it seem as if sleeping with him is such a big deal to you, even if it really is. Act casually around him, as if nothing happened between the two of you. Be open, still, in asking him out on another date or hanging out with him.
Stop being clingy
There are some women who act so clingy after sleeping with the guy. They feel that the relationship is at a whole new level and that they already have the authority to dictate to a man all of his actions. Do not act as if this man is now your possession. Being clingy would definitely drive this man away faster than ever.
Connect with him in other aspects
You do not have to close your doors to the fact that you two can still connect on other things, aside from the physical aspect. Get to know this person more by asking him things about himself. For all you know, you have more things in common with this guy than all the other guys you have dated in the past.
Prove to him that you are not that kind of a woman
Some guys would lose interest because they do not see a woman who gives herself too easily as someone who is worth respecting. Let him know that you are not like any of these women. Prove that you are also someone to be respected, and that you also value yourself.
Source by Krista Hiles
Kevin thinks he is his own man. He does whatever he wants regardless of the circumstances. He does not listen. Kevin claims to understand manhood because he has fathered several children. However, Kevin lives with his mother and is jobless. He constantly evades child support payments and bill collectors. Yet, reality never sinks in his mind. He proclaims to the world that he’s a ‘real man.’ Sadly, Kevin represents a growing number of weak men in our society.
One night I could not go to sleep. I watched a movie classic, “Cat on a Hot Tin Roof,” which featured Paul Newman, Burl Ives, and Elizabeth Taylor. Ex-football player and alcoholic Brick (Newman) reunites with his father, Big Daddy (Ives), who is dying of cancer. The movie showcases an assortment of personal conflicts and family drama. One of the strongest conflicts is between father and son. In one scene, Brick is found arguing with his demanding father, “I didn’t want a boss. I wanted a father. All I ever wanted was you to love me.” The movie provides a clear theme for the issues associated with manhood today. In the movie, the father’s controlling behavior contributes to the weakness of his son. Likewise, many people in America share the blame for creating weak men. Are we unknowingly contributing to the growth of weak men? It is a troubling observation as we look at our society. The hot story today is about the brutal treatment of Rhianna by boyfriend Chris Brown. Many pundits and women’s advocates highlight the negative nature of abusive relationships. While these stories are the tragic realities of our culture, they are often forgotten as a passing snapshot before another sensational news story. Yet, the most disturbing thing to witness is the growing trend of more weak men in our society.
The Real Problem
The storyline is very troubling. Weak men are negatively impacting our society. According to the American Bar Association Commission on Domestic Violence, 25% of women had been raped and/or physically assaulted by a current or former spouse, cohabiting partner, or dating partner/acquaintance at some time in their lifetime in the 1995-1996 study. Women experienced 20% of all nonfatal violent crimes at the hands of an intimate partner.
Celebrities tout their wealth as a symbol of good character. Consequently, destructive behavior is rewarded with million dollar contracts. The model is developed. Many men consider toughness a virtue and kindness a weakness. Young people follow what we do and not what we say. Therefore, a vicious cycle takes place in our culture where manhood isn’t understood. Men are depending more on women to provide for them and take the leadership role in their homes. Some men do not feel any commitment to the young lady. She is disrespected and taken for granted.
The Masculine Definition
In order to understand a weak man, an individual must understand the meaning of manhood. Being a real man is about possessing responsible character. It involves moving beyond the trivial to the significant in life. This concept is revealed biblically in 1 Corinthians 13:11: “When I was a child, I spoke like a child, thought like a child, and reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up my childish ways.” The problem is that so many men have not grown up and are living the lives of grown-up ‘children.’ There is plenty of blame to go around: parents, media, celebrities, and society in general.
Young men are growing up confused about the meaning of manhood. Therefore, a fight exists between doing the right things and doing what’s in my own selfish interest. It is the battle of the internal man. General George Patton said, “Battle is the most magnificent competition in which a human being can indulge. It brings out all that is best; it removes all that is base. All men are afraid in battle. The coward is the one who lets his fear overcome his sense of duty. Duty is the essence of manhood.” Below is how to determine if you have a weak man:
- Is he a dependable person?
- Does he take responsibility for his situation?
- Does he work with you on building a shared vision for the future?
- Is he willing to make a commitment to you?
- Can he keep a full-time job on a consistent basis?
- Does he encourage your dreams and ambitions?
- Does he demonstrate that he respects you by his actions and words?
If the majority of your answers are ‘no,’ you’ve got a very weak man on your hands. Therefore, it is up to you to improve your conditions in life, not that weak man.
Society must allow men to become more self-sufficient. In the movie Cat on a Hot Tin Roof, Big Daddy operated in ways that enabled Brick, his son. As a consequence, Brick never really experienced the consequences of his bad decisions. Likewise, many people promote the weak man model by cuddling and shielding these men from the realities of life. However, today’s men must be accountable, responsible, and character leaders in society.
Giving young boys positive male role models is important in stopping the epidemic of weakness. However, it is crucial that they interface with strong men through organizations like churches and community organizations. If adults take positive steps today, society can prevent this growing problem in communities across this country.
Can you afford to have a weak man in your life? The media constantly bombards us with negative caricatures of manhood. Instead of producing positive results, they generate the negative unintended consequence of weak men. Some parents want to shift the blame to the schools or the government. It is time that we reject this weak man model today. Many men and women are attempting to correct this problem in order to raise more dependable men in our society. Real manhood is not glamorous as the movies would have you believe. Real manhood is not an easy process. It is about shouldering your responsibilities, making commitments, and making hard choices. Can you survive with a weak man?
Source by Dr. Daryl D. Green
They say real men are men of few words. Their actions do the talking for them, and on those rare occasions when they actually speak, the words they utter are deeply meant. Whether this is true or not, the opposite sex is often misled by how men show, and react to certain emotions.
Society has dictated women to wait for a man to make the first move, so many women end up guessing, and second-guessing a guy’s actions and words. And even if the modern gal does put a brave foot forward to ask a guy out, she would still have to read his signs to know whether he’s interested or not. The challenge begins when women have absolutely no clue as to what guys mean when they act certain ways. Here are some truths about men, and how to know when they are hooked.
1. He may stare, or avoid your eyes altogether. A guy who’s into you would do anything to stare into your pretty eyes, because it’s his way of letting you know he’s interesting. But then, when you look back, his nerves start to get all jittery, and he has to look away. It’s a little known fact that people who can look at others straight in the eye are sincere and honest, but cut the guy some slack. He’s probably still as apprehensive as you are.
2. In a sea of people and familiar faces, he seems to see only you. At a party, does he seem to always seem to be “accidentally” bumping into you? Do you turn around, and catch him in the corner of your eye, looking at you and wanting your attention? He probably hasn’t said it out loud yet, but when a guy no longer notices the long legs and beautiful faces around him, and gets tunnel-vision around you, he definitely likes you.
3. He gets flustered and may stammer when talking to you. He wants to make a good impression, but he’s not quite sure what to say. You wouldn’t believe the number of times he’s rehearsed his hello.
4. He pays more attention to you during a conversation, and asks questions instead of talking about himself. When he actually talks to you, watch his ability to converse. Notice how your guy friends will actually have the tendency to talk about themselves, therefore boring you to death. But a guy who really likes you will put you first. He will ask questions that will get you talking, and will react empathetically to everything you say. A mistake many men make is when they become too patronizing, but it’s probably a way to make a girl see that they’re on her side.
5. He’s always the knight ready to rescue the damsel in distress. Why is he always so willing to drive you home? Why does he always seem to offer to help you out? This is a giveaway. While other guys would rather play their PSPs and watch baseball on TV with their guy friends, this guy will be catering to your every whim. You may not even notice it. He may start small – carrying your stuff for you, holding a door for you, pulling a chair for you to sit on, etc. Suddenly he’s a perfect gentleman.
6. He gets you sweet nothings, just because. This is a giveaway, and once he starts spending on you, you know he’s really interested. Flowers? Chocolates? Cute little stuffed bears? Surprise lunch? There’s nothing more to say to that.
7. Final clue. His friends act funny when you’re around. We reveal everything to our girl friends, and so do guys. They let their friends know who they’re crushing on, and that’s why you’ll see his friends nudging each other, fidgeting, or simply teasing him about you. There you go. Wait and see, and let the magic of love make a move.
Source by Russell Jackson
How do you wish to play stick cricket? Do you want it be a fair game or you want to win the game, by hook or by crook? Wining is definitely important for most players involved in these matches. However, for the ones who wish to play a fair and decent game, options are available aplenty.
Stick cricket at the online gaming websites has suddenly started gaining popularity. It is because the matches are more intricate in style and timing, but the basic concept remains unchanged, cricket lovers are following this particular sport for a different feel. The stick cricket sport started out like any other online match of cricket. However, this particular online sport has used some of the best quality graphics, which have evolved over the years. There are many new challenges that the players have to face in this virtual platform, meet the requirements and come out victorious.
Stick cricket is the most interesting virtual cricketing match that can keep you hooked on for minutes and hours. The game is not only available online, but has been released for mobile applications and iPhone too. Playing this event is very simple. However, it is important to know that there are few tricks that can be used to the optimum for winning the game. Whilst it might not be very easy to play the game, as it apparently seems to be, there are many challenges to be faced.
In order to be an excellent stick cricket player, which is a game played with the stick people, you must start practicing. This is very important if you are planning to play at any of the leading matches or tournaments in times to come. Therefore, you have to hone your cricketing skills. This will also help in strengthening your weak spots, if you have any, and gradually you will also get familiarized to the different bowl styles. It also improves the timing skills that can make a lot of difference to the playing techniques and strategies.
As a player, you must also learn to maintain the line of the ball whenever you are into the in swing or out swing. You must make the shot as per the line of the ball. Do not bother about straighter drive because both the right and left shots work well.
As an experienced player you must learn that the ball should not be left. You should be able to take all possible chances so that you are able to crack the best score. Even if it is not possible to attain perfection, it would be fine. But, make it a point to have your ball, as it will finally add up to the total.
Source by Priyank Soni
While there’s no definite way you can guarantee yourself a proposal, here’s some surefire things you can do to at least help yourself in pushing things along:
Ultimatums Are Not the Way to Go
Many women who are in a rush to get married will issue ultimatums to their boyfriends, telling them that unless they propose, the relationship is done.
While this may work for some guys, do you really want your marriage to happen because you forced him into it? Wouldn’t it be better if it was something he wanted to? Handing your guy an ultimatum not only shows how desperate you are to get married, (which no woman should ever be), but it also shows that you care more about getting that ring than you ultimately do about him and his desires.
Complaining About the Relationship Won’t Help
Finding things to complain about and making statements such as “If we were married, this wouldn’t be an issue…” is a big mistake. You are not only reinforcing the idea in your own head that your current situation with your man isn’t good enough, but you’re also making him feel inadequate. Also, it’s this type of nagging that makes a man not want to get married in the first place.
Get Really Close to His Mother
Your guy’s mom can be a powerful ally if you’re longing for him to propose.
Mothers can suggest things in a very convincing way to their sons, and tell them things that they might not realize, such as “She would be such a beautiful bride,” and “Don’t you want to marry this one before she gets away?” Even if this annoys him, he’ll be thinking about everything she tells him anyway.
Show Your Domestic Side
You can put the idea of domestic bliss and marriage into his head simply by showing off a side of you that he may not know about or hasn’t seen enough of.
If you don’t know how to cook, study up on easy recipes online and try them out when he’s not around. By the time he is around, you’ll hopefully have them perfected. In addition to getting your cooking skills down perfectly, make sure you demonstrate how clean and organized you can make a home. It may seem old-fashioned, but the point is that he sees it and recognizes that you would be a great wife.
Examine Negative Behavior
Look at your own behavior patterns in your relationship and be honest with yourself about what you need to focus on. Do you whine a lot? Do you blame him for things that aren’t really his fault? Do you take it out on him when you have a bad day just because he’s there?
Behavior like this needs to stop. You should be asking yourself “If I were him, would I want to marry me?”
Appreciate What You Have Now
A great way to make it feel like no time has passed at all before you get engaged is to enjoy what you have now!
Each day with your man should be special and appreciated, whether you are his girlfriend or wife.
Be an Overall Asset
A husband and wife should be overall assets to each other. So look at what you have to bring to the table in a marriage and make sure what each of you have to offer is equal.
You can not only help inspire a proposal, but also make your relationship much better now by making sure you’re both being unselfish and giving each other all that you can.
Source by Krista Hiles
It is hard to believe how much the world has changed in the last 30 years ago. Three decades ago, a day in the office involved poring over files and printed statistic pages that had been mailed from another office. Today, a similar day would involve reading these same statistics from the screen of a digital device such as a laptop or a handheld device. Thanks to the rapid evolution in technology, modern business results and relationships are achieved differently. Today, people are more likely to be concerned with acquiring essential iPhone parts or MacBook parts to their respective device than they are with buying a new suit.
The emergency of the enhanced digital age has provided many options that were previously unavailable. In colleges for example, students are now able to pay better attention to their classes and schedules. Most mobile devices are filled with extremely efficient organizers. These pseudo cyber secretaries ensure that students are able to correctly remember what they have to do during the day while still alerting them to the birthday status of friends. Sitting in the beds of their dorm rooms, many students are able to review lectures that they have missed on their laptops as well as discuss assignments amongst fellow peers.
In the world of the business, the use of technology has been even more dramatic. The presence of the internet has made the idea of a globalization a very real fact. Different branches of companies located in different parts of the world are able to communicate with each other via the use of their computers. Business men are no longer restricted to working within their office. With the use of their netbooks or mobile devices and an effective connection, a worker can easily discuss matters relating to business with a coworker as he takes the train home.
Of course, in order for the advances in technology to be effectively used, people will need to equip themselves with the right tools and accessories. There are different product parts which are released and designed to improve the efficiency in service of a product. For instance, the introduction of blue tooth and wireless technology allows most people to abandon the use of wires. Headsets as well as other accessories can now be linked with real hardware with connections such as these. The provision of wireless keyboards and headphones do not only improve human efficiency, they also reduce many of the clutter that existed prior to their introduction.
Many of these accessories can be found on the internet at online tech shops. Depending on the nature of a person’s needs, provision can be made for a wide range of hardware items. For example owners of computers can decide to upgrade the efficiency of their systems with various enhanced additions. The use of cell phones and digital handheld products can also be upgraded with extremely effective parts reliant on the technology found alongside these devices. Technology has taken the world in its grip and for the best parts; it appears that it is here to stay.
Source by Connor R Sullivan
Recently, mobile gaming has been gaining a rather large share in terms of revenue. Gaming consoles/platforms and online gaming giants have dominated the game industry for the last decades, but with the enormous mobile gaming insurgents, change is definitely coming and change is welcome especially for avid gamers and enthusiasts.
Mobile games revenue forecast is predicted to increase up to $45 billion by 2018. Asia has been the leader in the industry since 2013, and is predicted to dominate the industry by up to 50% total revenue. Industry Analyst Vincent van Deelen stated, “This is simply not the case. We are also emphasizing that the recent results of individual high profile companies such as Rovio, King, DeNA and GREE are not necessarily indicative of the state of the mobile market as a whole. It is not in our interest to inflate market figures, but the hard facts have forced us to adjust our estimates upward. We have maintained our year-on-year growth rates toward 2017, ultimately leading to a $40Bn+ market share.”
In this regard, mobile game players have successfully gained large share in the market like most gaming console and online gaming companies. Indeed, this is good news for game development companies and their shareholders to put more focus and emphasis on this growing trend. Android games are also expected to be predictably higher in the coming years. Though, it is still a proven fact that iOS rakes in more revenue than Google Play despite the latter having massive download for freemium model type of games. But in a global perspective, Chinese app stores and android game downloads and revenue far exceeded iOS last 2014. North America, Europe and other Asian countries, such as Japan and South Korea have also ventured in the global trend. Reports show that mobile games now account for nearly 40% of the country’s total digital games revenue. With increased competition, smaller companies are also getting creative with the introduction of e-sports, multi-screen gaming and HTML5 mobile gaming, and the final trend is the rising popularity of downloading Android games for TV-based gaming. The top 7 companies in the mobile gaming industry compete for the release of quality games to dominate further and not to get left behind in the scene. These are some of the most downloaded game apps:
3. Angry Birds
4. Angry Birds Rio
5. Angry Birds Seasons
6. Angry Birds Space
7. Angry Birds Star Wars
8. Angry Birds Star Wars 2
9. Angry Birds Go!
10. Angry Birds 2
11. Ant Smasher: Best Free Game
12. Archery Master 3D
13. Asphalt 8: Airborne
14. Bad Piggies
15. Bad Piggies HD
16. Banana Kong
17. Basketball Stars
18. Blossom Blast Saga
19. Boom Beach
20. Brave Frontier
21. Bubble Witch Saga
22. Bubble Witch 2 Saga
23. Candy Crush Saga
24. Candy Crush Soda Saga
25. Cars: Fast as Lightning
26. Castle Clash: Age of Legends
27. Clash of Clans
28. Clash of Kings
29. Clash Royale
30. Color Switch
31. Criminal Case
32. Crossy Road
33. CSR Racing
34. Deer Hunter
35. Despicable Me
36. Diamond Dash
37. Diamond Digger Saga
38. Don’t Tap The White Tile
39. Dragon City
40. Drag Racing Classic
41. Dream League
42. Dumb Ways to Die
43. Dumb Ways to Die 2: The Games
44. Extreme Car Driving Simulator
45. Fast Racing 3D
46. Frozen Freefall
47. Geometry Dash
48. Geometry Dash Lite
49. Farm Heroes Saga
50. FIFA 15 Ultimate
51. Flow Free
52. Fruit Ninja Free
53. Glow Hockey
54. Hay Day
55. Hearthstone Heroes of Warcraft
56. Hill Climb Racing
57. Hungry Shark
58. Jetpack Joyride
59. Jewels Saga
60. Magic Rush: Heroes
61. Minecraft: Pocket Edition
62. MORTAL KOMBAT X
63. My Talking Angela
64. My Talking Tom
66. 8 Ball Pool
67. Pet Rescue Saga
68. Piano Tiles 2 (Don’t Tap…2)
69. Plants vs. Zombies
70. Plants vs. Zombies 2
71. Real Racing 3
72. Score! Hero
73. Shadow Fight 2
74. SimCity BuildIt
75. Skater Boy
77. Smash Hit
78. Smurfs’ Village
80. Sonic Dash
81. Spider-man Unlimited
83. Star Girl
84. Star Wars: Galaxy of Heroes
85. Subway Surfers
86. Summoners War
87. Talking Tom Bubble Shooter
88. Temple Run
89. Temple Run 2
90. Texas Holdem Poker Deluxe
91. The Simpsons: Tapped Out
92. Throne Rush
93. Traffic Racer
94. Traffic Rider
95. Trivia Crack
97. Zombie Tsunami
98. Z War
100. 2048 Number
This is a clear indicator that mobile gaming market share is expected to grow in the coming years.
Source by Jules Elgincolin
7 Reasons why you should leave your EX in the PAST after a break up
Reason #1 – “Done it Once…”
If a person has done something to you once, he is going to do it again. People are programmed to operate a certain way.
If you are thinking I’m wrong and that that isn’t true, that maybe he just made a mistake, I can tell you without hesitation right here and now that whatever he did to you was not a mistake. It was his nature. It is who and what he is all about. If a guy cheats on you just once, it is not “by mistake.” Ok, maybe it was a mistake, as though it was too dark and he mixed you up with some other girl. Is that what you call a mistake?
I don’t care how many times he screams and shouts and swears to you that it’s never going to happen again. It is just not true. It will happen again AND again. Maybe not anytime soon, but it will happen again for sure.
If any guy lies to you once, he will lie to you again AND again.
If your man “disappears” for a day or a week just once, he will do it again. And there you are sitting and crying and sobbing a river of tears wondering where he went. “What did he do? Why is this happening to me?”
If he breaks up with you once, and you take him back, he will break up with you again. Are you a rug that men can walk all over with their dirty shoes?
These things happen to girls all the time. And just about every girl believes she is good enough and strong enough to get him to change. But you know what? Even if you think that you have broken his bad habits, and believe that he will change for you, there is a 99.99% likelihood he will do it all over again.
I can hear you shouting at me, saying “Erica, but I got him back and I swear he stopped doing that. He loves me, he is not cheating on me, he never lies…anymore, I mean.”
Fine, let’s say I believe you, because there is always a chance, like I said before.
However, it’s gonna take you a lot more than 21 days of hard work. Because to make it work out like you say, you really have to change your whole way of thinking and behaving, and adopt a whole new attitude. What I’m saying is that you just have to become a totally new person, and break away from the person he met back then: the person he screwed over.
One thing I can tell you for sure is this: change yourself and your whole world changes. “LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE.” What I’m saying is that if there is a guy you are just aching to be with, you have to understand that by feeling and acting the same old way, you have made it impossible for yourself to ever be with him. In order to turn that situation around and make it work, or at least give yourself the best chance for it to work, you are just going to have to change.
I know this may strike you as confusing but once you become a “different person,” you probably won’t be interested in this guy you are dying to be with. And you know why? Because he will not excite the NEW YOU.
One of my clients had a long distance relationship and hadn’t seen her ex boyfriend in over eight months. She kept going on and on, telling me she couldn’t get him out of her mind.
I kept telling her that she had to forget him and get on with her life. She refused and asked me why. I told her “It’s because the guy who left you represents who you were the moment you met him. And that was well over a year ago.” I told her that she had changed but he hadn’t, and that he would always be the same.
Let me explain what I’m talking about because you might not be familiar with this concept.
Every man you met represents you at the moment you meet him. He is the reflection of your inner self. If you want only money, life might send you a heartless millionaire who can provide you with financial resources. And when you honestly fall for him, and ask why he is not able to love you back, brace yourself for the answer – it’s because of the money you wanted so much in the first place. If you wanted sex at that moment, life would have sent you a sex machine to satisfy you.
LIKE ATTRACTS LIKE! If you succeed in getting him back into your life, strap on your seat belt because now your life will be an emotional roller coaster with more ups and downs than the stock market.
Every person in our lives is there for a reason. They teach us things at particular times in our growth as human beings.
If today you met your best friend for the very first time (the same best friend you met in reality ten years ago) you may not have anything in common – you may not even like each other. Why? Because today, you are not the same person you were ten years ago when you met your best friend and you needed him and he needed you, and you gave each other what needed to be given.
Reason #2 – Don’t look for the future in your past, the future is in the future.
Girls, I know exactly how it feels: that your future is empty and meaningless without Him. Do all of the following things, and it will make your life better:
Convince yourself that you are on a strict diet and think of him as a craving.
If you are like me then you know that the first days of a diet are always the most difficult because we desperately crave something we should not have – like ice cream, chocolate or French fries. But if we stay strong for a few days, we can get used to living without those desperate cravings of ours. The latest studies prove that the cravings we have in our minds last for only five minutes, so if we can stay strong and get over those cravings, they will go away.
If you think of him as a “craving” and remember that all cravings disappear after just 5 minutes of will power, you will survive and be a stronger person for it.
Like every diet, sometimes it gets too hard dealing with your cravings. So when your craving for him becomes overwhelming just promise yourself that in six months you will allow yourself a little piece of HIM – what I mean is that all you need to satisfy this deep rooted craving is a phone call to hear his voice live or on his answering machine. You will feel so much better for these two reasons:
1) You CAN handle your cravings- Congratulations! This is a tremendous accomplishment in your life. You are on your way to recovery.
2) By the time six months has rolled around and you make that phone call, you might not even need him anymore. You might have lost ten pounds and look great, you might have a new job, you might have met a new man, a new TRUE LOVE.
He is the one who has lost YOU. It is not the other way around!
Every life is precious. Every person has good inside of them. Every person wants to be liked, and every person not only wants to be loved, but NEEDS LOVE.
Remember that yesterday is gone and that he is part of the past. You know how much you loved him, you remember all those things you did for him and how much it hurt to know that he walked out on you and may already be with somebody else. Pity the poor girl who ends up with the man who walked out on you.
You are a beautiful person even if you have made some mistakes, and have been a poor judge of character. We are only human.
Reason #3 – Remember the Beauty of the Broken Vase.
When you break a vase, you gather all the pieces together and glue them back in place like a puzzle. But as soon as you pour water into the vase, it will start leaking. A broken relationship is just like a broken vase.
Reason #4 – Your relationship was not a waste. You were in training, but didn’t know that at the time.
Just as we learn from every person in our life, we also learn something from every event that transpires. Life’s lessons are taught to us every day. We may not recognize what we are learning at that particular moment and time, but make no mistake about it: We are always learning.
When you go to a restaurant and a waiter brings your steak in a skillet, and tells you not to touch the plate because it’s hot, you touch it anyway and burn your finger and scream, “That IS hot!” Why did you touch it after you were told not to? There could be several reasons. Maybe you didn’t believe him. Maybe you wanted to see just how hot it really was. The point is this – you learned something from the experience.
The expression EVERYTHING THAT DOESN’T KILL US MAKES US STRONGER is true.
Accept the fact that the time you spent in the relationship that ended abruptly taught you more things than you can ever imagine about your man in particular, men in general, and about the type of woman you really are.
You will never forget that look on his face and the words he spoke that made you cry. You will never let any man treat you the same way again because you have learned about who you are from the relationship that you just had.
The entire time you were with him, you thought you had found a boyfriend, but what you really found was a treadmill for your soul. He was exercise equipment and nothing more. Now that he is gone and it is over between two of you, you can look back on this episode as having been a wonderful training lesson to prepare you for your ONE TRUE LOVE, who you have not yet met. Your soul will be better prepared next time. All the tears you cried over him were a down payment on the longer lasting and loving relationship that you deserve.
Reason #5 – What the hell did you fall in love with anyway?
When did Prince Charming become selfish, cruel, mean and disrespectful to you? When did you start blaming yourself for the misery he was causing you? He made you feel as though your problems with him were your fault. He brainwashed you into believing what he wanted you to believe about him – that he was a nice, generous, kind, funny and loving man who could never hurt you.
This doesn’t mean that you were a stupid person. You were just a woman with a warm heart and open arms wanting to love a man and to be loved for who you are.
Have you ever bought yourself something expensive – like a new car or a diamond ring? Remember how those sales people treated you the minute you walked through their door? They were ready to kiss your feet, but you made them to kiss your ass to make a sale.
As soon as you handed over your money, the sale was completed and out the door you went, and wham, they could not care less about you. Of course, not all sales people are so cold. Some would provide you with their best service for as long as you own that car or wear your diamond ring.
Were you getting the “best service” from your boyfriend? Or was your Prince Charming occasionally offering his Monthly Special, like dinner and a movie on the last Saturday of the month? The Monster who spent the other thirty days the month with you was revealing his true character to you the entire time you were together but you refused to trust your instincts that told you something was wrong with him.
What do you want from a man? A Monster for thirty days and a Prince Charming for 24 hours? Don’t you deserve Prince Charming each and every day of your life?
If you want that Monster, then be my guest. You can stop reading now. You can always read this later after he breaks your heart all over again.
Reason #6 – Your efforts and energy…do they have any value?
I remember waking up on Valentines Day crying my eyes out. I was talking out loud through my tears, saying “How did this happen to me? What kind of a man he is anyway?” I called my healer and adviser, telling him about all of these “love attacks” that made me dial my beloved ex boyfriend’s number, trying to get him on the line just to tell him about what he did to me and how he toe my heart out.
I asked my healer what I should do when my heart is squeezed like an orange and all my “happy life juice” is draining out me. I told him I spent so much of my time trying to fight those attacks, desperately wanting to forget about my love, but I just spent hours and hours crying until I was so exhausted that I couldn’t do anything for myself. I felt useless and depressed, and it took me days to put myself back together.
This is what my healer said: “Erica, calm down.” He told me to “get a class of water, sip it slowly and just listen to me.”
Then he said, “Erica, you remind me of a person who spends all day long making mess around her beautiful house and then cleaning up all of the mess. That person is so busy producing mess and then cleaning it all up that she does not have time to live her life, she has no time to sleep either, and sleeping well is very important for healthy life.”
“Erica, if you remain this dedicated to making mess all day and all night, you will never have time for your son, for your family, for your friends, you won’t be able to do your job, you will never to have time to make new friends, to meet a new boyfriend who will love you and to achieve all your big dreams.”
That was the moment that I literally opened my eyes. He was so right. Why was I wasting all of my valuable time and energy chasing after this Monster who didn’t give a shit about me, just to explain to him how much I love him?
Honestly girls, I stopped crying immediately. All of a sudden, I realized that I had been neglecting so many things that were much more important. I have never wasted my efforts since. And neither should you.
Reason #7 – Getting revenge! Is it worth the effort?
So many girls I’ve spoken to just wanted to get back with the ex boyfriend to prove to him that he was totally wrong about breaking up.
Of course, a lot of girls said that they wanted to teach him a lesson. And almost everyone let me know that they had this little thought flashing inside their heads: “Wouldn’t it be great if he came back to me and was able to see a much more beautiful and successful and extra confident woman then I was before he left me? Wouldn’t it be great just to give him special fancy date and then dump him, just like he did to me?”
Let’s face it, we have all shared the same thought and there is nothing to be ashamed about. After all, we are just people with weaknesses. It’s a good thing that you are able to recognize these thoughts because it’s an important part of the process to recognize the state your mind is in after what he put you through. Many girls refuse to admit having these thoughts and temptations. Ladies, it is essential to the healing process to always say NO to your desire to get back with him. And if you need to know why this is an absolute condition for moving on with your life, then re-read Rule #6.
If you use your valuable time and energy just to get him back and then dump him, I swear, all you will feel in the end is more sadness, deep depression, stress beyond belief and emptiness that will make you sick.
Source by Erica Nevis